I spent the last year in the USA. While I didn't do much game, it was an adventurous year of digital nomad-ing. I'll briefly share some of the highlights. Then I'll end with an account of my last month in the USA, where I decided to get back into the thick of daygame after nearly a year long break.
Highlights
- Met a Pakistani MILF while apartment hunting in Chicago; she was the building manager at the apartment building I moved into. Three months of flirty, but brief, interactions ensued. We got lunch a couple times at Chipotle. Third time, we ate in my apartment, after which she let me feel her tits before scurrying back to her office. I banged her a week later.
- Stayed at an Airbnb in Detroit for one night. The host, a black MILF who recently filed for divorce, and I started chatting. The spark was undeniable and I invited her to watch a movie with me in my room. She said maybe after she puts the kids to bed. It never happened, but we kept in touch over text which evolved to sexts.
- Bought a used car for $10K, drove across the USA, up and down the California coast, and parts of Canada, clocking over 10K miles in 5 months. Encountered racism at a rundown gas pump in the middle of Nebraska, had some close calls at 90mph, listened to 50% of the History of Rome podcast, and managed to make it in one piece with zero tickets. This road trip gave me a chance to catchup with wings, friends, and extended family, some of whom I hadn't seen in years. It educated me about buying and selling used cars and basic car maintenance. It also reinforced my love for solo travel and long drives.
- Camped off the grid for a few rainy nights in the PNW where I learned how to chop firewood and make half decent fires thanks to a guy I met in my yoga class. Got comfortable spending the night in my car and making use of free community showers. Lived in hostels, shared Airbnb houses, and Airbnb luxury apartments. These experiences made me more appreciative, flexible, and a less fussy traveler in general.
- An asshole got my car towed because I was partially blocking his driveway (I'd come home late and didn't notice in the dark). I got into a panic the following morning and assumed the worst. I filed a stolen car report with the police and was informed I'd need to pay $430 to get my car from the towing company's lot. My host was gracious enough to subsidize my rent by $150, but I still hate how litigious the USA can be. This wouldn't have happened in India.
- Got into a conversation with another American resident on my block who'd traveled extensively in India. He invited me to his backyard music studio where he played some of his tunes which he sells to dance clubs in the Caribbean. I love dance music so it was right up my alley. He offered me some strong Californian weed while sharing more stories about his adventures, near death experiences in South America, and creative philosophy. Really chill guy, a true adventurer, I hope our paths cross again. That weed knocked me out for the rest of the day.
- My housemate for a few months was a 42 yo woman, a self-proclaimed spinster with a larger than life personality. After breaking the ice, we started to share about our romantic adventures. She's the only woman I've told about daygame, and she loved it. In fact, she has me beat on notches and went on over a 100 dates on Ashley Madison before finally finding a boyfriend. The three of us got drinks one night and had a lot of fun. He got diagnosed with cancer a few weeks later. After an acceptable waiting period, she got back to dating and was plate-spinning five boyfriends when we last spoke.
- Met two other girls with whom I developed platonic relationships, which is unusual for me. It helped that they weren't my type and one had a boyfriend. But they taught me basic diving technique, bouldering, and joined me on some hikes and other mini-trips around the PNW.
- Entered a 15K race in Chicago and came 35th in my age group with a time of 1 hr 4 mins.
- Started smoking in moderation. I go through a pack every 6 weeks or so. Aside from having a relaxing effect, smoking has been a nice social lubricant. A girl I cold approached recently asked me for a smoke after she hooked. A group of two girls asked me for smokes while standing in line to enter a speakeasy.
- Grew my passive income. I think I can afford to daygame in London for a few months now.
Back to Daygame
After nearly a year of enjoying the simple monastic life free of romantic drama, I decided to start chasing skirt again with an eye towards more meaningful relationships instead of chasing notches. My MO was to just get as much practice in before leaving the USA in a month. A lay would be icing on the cake.
My re-entry into daygame was cushioned when Mr. V, my friend and wing in NYC, made plans to visit Vancouver for a weeklong vacation. While his primary goal was to relax and take in the sights, just having him by my side got me out of my head and helped my vibe tremendously. We booked an Airbnb in Gastown. I drove up a few days early and started approaching solo.
I had to confront the same demons all over again: approach anxiety, feeling weird, spotlight effect, you name it. Even though I've done hundreds of approaches in SF and NYC, I felt like a beginner again.
I spent ~10 days in Vancouver. I got five numbers, all of whom texted back. I went on one date and one i-date. The date was with a feisty Italian girl who, during the street interaction, told me she's doing sex work to pay for grad school and whether that's okay with me. I made it clear I won't be helping her pay for grad school.
We met the following day for a quick drink. The date started off on the wrong foot. She even flat out told me that her gut says this isn't going to work. I tried my best to remain non-reactive and told her the gut is often right and people don't listen to it enough. Then I steered the convo in a different direction and things improved. Moods can be so fickle. The date ended on a positive; she leaned forward, looked deeply into my eyes with a naughty smile, and asked whether we'll meet again. I said, "What does your gut say?" She smiled, we hugged, and parted ways. We continued to text but a second date never materialized. I'm very proud of my text game with this girl and the date was good and much needed practice, my first date in months.
The i-date was on my second-to-last day in Vancouver. We had such good chemistry, but she had a long distance marriage-material boyfriend and time constraints, so I couldn't keep her past the i-date. We exchanged numbers and I pinged her not expecting anything. She revealed that she's an exotic dancer and invited me to a drink at the place she was dancing. Unfortunately, I had slept off and only saw these texts in the morning. She could've just been hustling me, but I like to believe otherwise.
That's it for Vancouver, the land of sex workers and exotic dancers. I spent 4 days in Seattle before boarding my flight to India. Downtown had much less foot traffic compared to Vancouver and much more druggies and homelessness. It would make a poor city for daygame longterm. That said, I had a few decent interactions and got two numbers despite telling them that our romance will have to be short-lived. I couldn't get them out on dates. Perhaps I should've held my cards closer to my chest so we could convince ourselves that "it just happened."
This month has reminded me that the female mood is fickle. I can make her wet during the interaction, but then life gets in the way.
What's Next?
I'm leaving the USA on a high. I'll be in India for the next two months getting pampered and playing my part in some family / religious functions. Behind the scenes, I'm hatching plans for a mini-vacation with my girl there. She's mad at me for not doing a good enough job keeping in touch while I was in the USA, so I'm not taking anything for granted.
I don't expect to do much daygame while I'm in India. But after my stint in India, I'm considering moving to London. Now that I want to make daygame a priority again, I should be in a city which is best for it. I'm also considering Madrid due to lower cost of living, but I don't want to worry about language barriers and large culture gaps. I feel I still need to work on the fundamentals, especially my dates, escalation, and sexual confidence. London will provide the volume, diversity, and anonymity I need and give me a decent sampling of girls from the rest of Europe.